if not, a friend of mine has an idea on how I might be able to get the headlight washers to work with a 3 port.  but we'll see when we come to that, I'm gonna check on that post.

When the five port would stop working they would usally put on a 3 port. This is what mine had before I found a 5 port. All you have to do is get a T fitting. On a 3 port you have 1 large port for water intake and 2 small ports for water to exit. Get 2 short hoses about 3 inches long and put them on the 3 small ports. Then put the two T fittings on put the hoses. From there you now have the 5 ports you  need. Two for the wipers and two for the lights. It will work the same way as the true 5 port. When you wash the windshield you will also be washing the low beam headlights. There is no way to do them independedly.