that is funny inndy,  Just go ahead and ask away or send me a PM, Don't know how strong but I do have faith and believe in the Lord our God, I believe he has a sense of humor too, look around you, could some of the things you see be the work of a serious artist.

Larry

well, I'll just lay it out I guess.  my girlfriend of nine months, with whom I had been discussing marriage, and intended to propose to in November, cheated on me earlier this week...had sex with some random guy.  I started out willing to give her another chance, but she said she wanted out of the relationship.  I've spoken to her father, and he said she was doing about as bad as me, crying and very upset with herself.

I met her online, and started chatting with her.  after three months of IMs and phone calls, I flew down to meet her, we hit it off, and started dating.  over the past nine months, we've gotten more and more serious, until she suggested I propose around Christmastime...and we decided to marry when we were both finished with college, since we're living 900 miles apart atm.

This girl has been amazing.  She has a tremendous faith, and were it not for her spiritual guidance, my faith would have died some months ago.  We share many of the same interests, such as books, movies, and music, and she has the same morals and ideals about marriage as I do.  Plus she's addicted to corvettes...what could be better, right?

well, when all this happened, she was due to come visit me in september...and the plane ticket had already been purchased.  so we've decided that she's still going to come in two weeks, and between now and then, she will take some time to recover, and after the visit, she will decide if she wants to make another try at a relationship.

now...I'm scared to death.  this girl is by far the most wonderful, amazing partner I have ever had...and while there were some times I was unsure (after all, forever is a long time), I felt I was being called to marry her.  now I want another try at a relationship.  I'm scared of losing her, and I want to continue talking to her, but I don't want to cling to her and push her away...and at the same time, I feel that if I behave apathetically for the next two weeks...she will lose interest and drift away of her own accord.  she's really confused, and I can hear the confusion in her voice each time we talk...bouncing back and forth between happy and even affectionate, and depressed.  I've spent a lot of time in the Word lately, talked to my pastor about the situation, and I want to do God's will, but at the same time, every fiber of my being hopes and wishes and prays that His will involves her.  I feel...nauseous every day, cannot stop thinking about her, and wondering what I'll do in September when I find myself wanting to hold her.  It's frustrating because there's really nothing I can do for the next two weeks but trust in God, but that's been so hard because I want so bad to be able to start over with her, and I'm feeling guilty because instead of completely surrendering this to Him, I'm essentially begging Him to bring her back to me, to give us another chance.  I'm just really unsure of what to do at this point, and even when I talk to her on the phone, though I try to avoid the subject of 'us', it always seems to come up, and I don't want to push her away, but I want her to return to that point where I made her giddy with joy, where she wanted me in her future, and where she would never end a conversation without saying 'I love you.'

Blech...on a brighter note, the stingray is running again after the leakage and battery drain problems.  the stereo is still disconnected, I'm going to have to reconnect it and see if it drains the battery...as much as I love my sidepipes, I want my music back!

Because marriage is a life long commitment the two of you should seek out a professional Christian counselor while she is visiting you. Talk to your pastor and see who he would recommend, he may even be willing to do it. You can also go to Family Life web site at www.familylife.com for information. They may even have someone in your area who can help. Also don't stop praying. But do seek out professional help that can guide the two of you while you work through the issues. We all make mistakes that we later regret.

Wish you well with what ever God has in store for you.

When you feel blue take the vette out for a run.

Glen

I am a man of God and He is the most important part of my life. I feel you should put God first in any relationship. Seeking His will and only God's will. Remember God has a plan, and through prayer and meditation He will know whats best for both of you. Personally I would have to question her heart. If she has uncertainty now, what happens if its carried into your marriage? Marriage is a life long commitment as Glen pointed out. You need to ask yourselves, is this the person I would choose to live the rest of my life with. I feel maybe you should wait to make a marriage commitment until she is sure of that not only from her head but her heart. Get to know her really well. She may have issues that she needs to deal with, otherwise she would not have been untrue to you. And  that is my christian oppinion Hope this helps. God loves you both and knows whats best for you. I will say a prayer for you. Terry