Jim:
      Sorry for you loss... not anything I can say will even come close to helping you ...  I Know.
 

 I will tell you that I lost my Mother in 2001, Lost my Brother
and my Father  within a few moths of each other in 2002 ...

My Mother was born in Ireland and she had those Sparkling Irish Eyes
a few days after she died I looked up in the sky and "A" star was "sparkling" at me... The Star was Capella...and I started going outside every night to find Capella and say hello to my Mom...

I do the same thing for My Dad .. and for my Brother almost every night...

Neighbors may think I am crazy since I do actually talk to them...BUT
I can still see those sparkling Irish Eyes almost every night..and it is rather comforting..her eyes always told me how she felt...and now they are always smiling....

God Bless

Bob G.