and I'm devastated. This came out of left field yesterday at around 2 in the afternoon, and I had no idea it was coming. She told me that she isn't happy and doesn't want to be married anymore...went no deeper than that other that it has been brewing inside her for a few months. She never said anything to me about not being happy so I never even had a chance to try and fix whatever is broken. She tells me I am a wonderful man and father to my 2 year old boy, but she can't do "this" anymore, whatever the hell that means. I tried to get her to agree to go to some sort of counseling to find out the root of the problems she is having and she simply said no. One of her girlfriends called me last night to see how I am, and told me that as recently as 2 weeks ago she was telling her how much she loves her life.
She wants this to be amicable and not messy, so we will sit down and discuss who gets what. It's already been decided that I get the house since she couldn't afford it on her own, and one of us needs to keep it for our son's sake...this is his home and comfort zone. I'm also going to get to keep the Corvette, which she says would have been the case whether or not I sold the '70 to buy the '69. All she wants is to split our savings in half so she can start over and to split custody of my boy 50/50. There is no animosity on her part towards me and she genuinely appears to want this to be as easy as possible for me. I'm still not angry, but I guess that will come soon. What I am is overwhelmingly upset that I will miss half of my sons young years since I'll only have him 50% of the time...he is my life and I am having a really hard time imagining being in this big house without him . I hate to dump this on you all, but I'm in shock and needed to vent a little. Thanks for listening.

Matt

Matt, what can we say but sorry. I know the feeling myself....I came home one day and everything was gone...the Vette went several months before because of financial difficulties.

That was ten years ago, she still has not remarried, and her life is a COMPLETE disaster. I got custody of my daughter and got her the hell out of that situation.

Bought the Vette back from the guy I sold it to 3 years ago.....

The son had the same expierence a few months ago....she came home one day and said" I can't do this anymore - I don't want to be married anymore".

Just can't figure out women anyway, if you do, let us know.

Don't do anything stupid, and don't sign anything you are not comfortable with.

We'll be here for you.

 

 

man i went through all that just 6 months ago..

and i am happier man for it now..  keep your head up..

 

You have our complete support. My marriage ended about five years ago, but there were no children, so I didn't go through what you're about to.

I know it sounds cheesy, but life does go on. I've met the most wonderful woman who has a teenage daughter, and we'll be getting married this summer. Everything is a matter of perspective, as in the last ten years I've lost both my parents, my brother and very nearly my sister, yet, due to my fiance, I'm happier than I've ever been.

Life brings on challenges, and what defines us is not how we handle the good times, but how we face adversity. In other words, when life knocks you flat on your back, do you just stay there looking up, wondering what happened, or do you stand up and look forward.

Don't be afraid to vent here, we're all here for support.

Terrible news.  I'm very sorry.  We will be here for you anytime you need us.  If just to lend an ear, or whatever we can do.

Matt, so sorry to hear that bit of news.  Don't know what else to add to what has been said already.  We're all pullin' for ya Man.!  Keep your son number one and everything will work out...!!!

I'm very sorry to hear......hang in there, buddy, there is life after something like this.

JR

Matt

Very sorry to hear about this.  Your story sounds exactly like what happened to me 16 years ago.  The only difference is that my daughter was 3 1/2 at the time.  It's not easy when there were no signs something like this was coming.

It was a difficult time in my life.  Please feel free to PM me if you need to talk.  I found that to be very helpful.

You are in my thoughts and prayers.

PS - Remain strong and keep your son's interest foremost in your mind during this difficult time. 

Biff

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Matt,

Wow, man your post mirrors what happen to me almost to a tee.  Went on a business trip to chicago came back and dumped the whole mess right in my lap.  Your statements about splitting up items is identical to what happen with me.  Except there were no kids involved.  I basically bought her interest out of the house and she took the SUV.  I kept my truck and then we just split up the house hold items.

Even her comments mirrored my exwifes, except what I found out a month after the divorce was final that she had been sleeping with a neigborhood friend on another street whos backyard backed up to mine.  He had just went through a divorce six months prior with his wirfe.

I too hear her life is a mess, have not spoke to her since.  It will be tough on you since your kids are involved.  But I tell you what I am much happier now married to my current wife.  She loves cars, racing, travel, kids, and we have lots of those because she wanted more.  A much nicer house.  Couldn't be happier.  So don't think its the end of the world.  If you ever need to talk just call me.

Matt - Very sorry to hear this but I'm sure more info will be forthcoming. Maybe to the point of something workable. Keep your perspective and an open mind. You've got friends here.